by renee on March 3, 2010
I was marinating in a crabby mood recently. I know, kinda hard to believe. My negativity was engulfing my mind and slowly seeping into my spirit. It happens to the best of us.
To make things worse, I was really being hard on myself for not being able to shake it. This mood was competing with my normally positive outlook . . . and winning.
I kept trying to act “as if” I was in a good place. This worked temporarily, but surly thoughts were lurking in the background, quick to remind me they were still there. My arsenal of negativity had big claws, ready to quell any form of joy I dared to muster.
Here’s the evolution of my personal crabfest:
I nursed it – “I feel like being grouchy right now.”
I fed it – “Today is awful and it’s only going to get worse.”
I embraced it – “I’m in a horrible mood and I don’t care.”
I became my mood – “I am a crabby, miserable person.”
Then, just as I was on the brink of thinking this was how things were going to be with me . . . It magically evaporated!
Well, it wasn’t quite that sudden, but after talking with my husband about some good things going on, I could feel it lifting. Like the sun slowly coming out from behind the clouds. I found myself sitting up straighter, feeling more tranquil, less agitated. I felt lighter and happier. My cheerful mood was coming back!
Just as the crabby mood had swallowed me up like a tumultuous wave, a calm happiness slowly returned, enveloping me like a warm blanket of contentment and sunshine.
Here’s what I learned about being a crab cake:
- No need to fight it. Don’t be too hard on yourself for being in a bad mood. Everybody is from time to time. Just acknowledge and examine what thoughts might be perpetuating your sorry state of mind.
- Fully immerse yourself in it. It’s really okay to feel bad for a while. It’s better to accept your mood rather than resist or battle it. Just try to sequester yourself so it doesn’t rub off on anyone else.
- Trust that it will eventually fade away. Amazingly, once you admit that you’re in a crabby mood, it loses a lot of its power. Actually saying it out loud – I’m crabby! – really helps to lessen the suffering.
Our feelings are a powerful and valuable gauge of how we’re doing at any particular moment. Maybe a bad mood is letting you know that you’re stressed out and need to ease up on yourself a bit.
Emotions (even crabby ones!) can be a good thing. We can use our feelings to our advantage to reach a deeper understanding of ourselves and our world. Their value is in their ability to alert us that something is amiss internally, that we’re out of balance in some way.
Once you quit fighting that crabbiness, it will inevitably move on. Just know it will most likely be back on another day. And that’s okay. Now you know how to break free!
How do you get yourself out of a crabby mood?
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by renee on February 24, 2010
Ever feel like you’re just a drop in the ocean, small and insignificant? Nothing you do really matters that much, right? Well, imagine if you could make a positive difference each and every day without even spending a dime or exerting all that much effort.
I used to dream of ways I could really make my life count for something. I figured I would need a lot of time and money to accomplish anything significant and long-lasting. Could little old me really do that much to make the world a better place?
Now I realize that I can. We all can!
It’s the little things done consistently over time, straight from your heart, that actually have the greatest impact. Here are some things you can do every day to help improve our world:
- Practice gratitude. When you acknowledge and appreciate all the good stuff in your life, you are happier in relationships and life in general. Spend time each day saying thank you.
- Lend a helping hand. Doing simple acts of kindness not only makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, it helps others to feel worthy. It also motivates them to want to pay it forward.
- Be attentive. Give your undivided attention to the people around you. Make eye contact. Show that you value and appreciate their time, attention and desire to connect with you.
- Say a prayer. Prayer nurtures and heals relationships. Studies even show that an active prayer life can lengthen your life, mitigate illness and increase overall well-being.
- Pick up after yourself. Keeping your home and surroundings neat and clean will help you and those around you feel safer, happier, less stressed and more tranquil. If you get it out, put it back. If you make a mess, clean it up.
- Be cheerful and positive. Know that you have control over what kind of day you will have. Your mood impacts everyone around you. When you get out of bed every morning, make a conscious effort to be positive in all things you do and say.
- Say “I love you” to someone dear. Don’t take anyone for granted. Nurture and cherish your relationships. Expressing your love in a meaningful way is the greatest gift you can give to the people in your life.
- Wash your hands. Frequent hand washing is one of the best ways to avoid getting sick and spreading illness. According to the Centers for Disease Control, clean hands actually save lives.
- Pay a compliment. This is a simple but powerful relationship building tool. Focus on others. Be kind and sincere. Encourage other people by offering genuine, heartfelt praise.
- Smile and laugh . . . a lot. Any positive vibes emanating from you will make the world brighter and friendlier. Smiling not only lifts your spirits, but those around you. Smiles are contagious!
You may feel like just a speck in the whole of humankind. But you have valuable reasons for being here. Whether you realize it or not, the unique effect of YOU can be seen, felt and heard by everyone around you. Which then radiates to the people around them, and so on and so on . . .
Isn’t it comforting to know how easy it is to do something meaningful and significant? The world is waiting on you. Be yourself and share with others. The tiny things you do every day will make all the difference.
How do you try to make the world a better place?
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