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I was marinating in a crabby mood recently. I know, kinda hard to believe. My negativity was engulfing my mind and slowly seeping into my spirit. It happens to the best of us.

To make things worse, I was really being hard on myself for not being able to shake it. This mood was competing with my normally positive outlook . . . and winning.

I kept trying to act “as if” I was in a good place. This worked temporarily, but surly thoughts were lurking in the background, quick to remind me they were still there. My arsenal of negativity had big claws, ready to quell any form of joy I dared to muster.

Here’s the evolution of my personal crabfest:

I nursed it – “I feel like being grouchy right now.”

I fed it – “Today is awful and it’s only going to get worse.”

I embraced it – “I’m in a horrible mood and I don’t care.”

I became my mood – “I am a crabby, miserable person.”

Then, just as I was on the brink of thinking this was how things were going to be with me . . . It magically evaporated!

Well, it wasn’t quite that sudden, but after talking with my husband about some good things going on, I could feel it lifting. Like the sun slowly coming out from behind the clouds. I found myself sitting up straighter, feeling more tranquil, less agitated. I felt lighter and happier. My cheerful mood was coming back!

Just as the crabby mood had swallowed me up like a tumultuous wave, a calm happiness slowly returned, enveloping me like a warm blanket of contentment and sunshine.

Here’s what I learned about being a crab cake:

  • No need to fight it. Don’t be too hard on yourself for being in a bad mood. Everybody is from time to time. Just acknowledge and examine what thoughts might be perpetuating your sorry state of mind.
  • Fully immerse yourself in it. It’s really okay to feel bad for a while. It’s better to accept your mood rather than resist or battle it. Just try to sequester yourself so it doesn’t rub off on anyone else.
  • Trust that it will eventually fade away. Amazingly, once you admit that you’re in a crabby mood, it loses a lot of its power. Actually saying it out loud – I’m crabby! – really helps to lessen the suffering.

Our feelings are a powerful and valuable gauge of how we’re doing at any particular moment. Maybe a bad mood is letting you know that you’re stressed out and need to ease up on yourself a bit.

Emotions (even crabby ones!) can be a good thing. We can use our feelings to our advantage to reach a deeper understanding of ourselves and our world. Their value is in their ability to alert us that something is amiss internally, that we’re out of balance in some way.

Once you quit fighting that crabbiness, it will inevitably move on. Just know it will most likely be back on another day. And that’s okay. Now you know how to break free!

How do you get yourself out of a crabby mood?

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For more about An Island Perspective & finding tropical tranquility, visit palmcanyonwellness.com. And, you can join the island tribe at facebook.com/IslandPerspective.

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Ever feel like you’re just a drop in the ocean, small and insignificant? Nothing you do really matters that much, right? Well, imagine if you could make a positive difference each and every day without even spending a dime or exerting all that much effort.

I used to dream of ways I could really make my life count for something. I figured I would need a lot of time and money to accomplish anything significant and long-lasting. Could little old me really do that much to make the world a better place?

Now I realize that I can. We all can!

It’s the little things done consistently over time, straight from your heart, that actually have the greatest impact. Here are some things you can do every day to help improve our world:

  1. Practice gratitude. When you acknowledge and appreciate all the good stuff in your life, you are happier in relationships and life in general. Spend time each day saying thank you.
  2. Lend a helping hand. Doing simple acts of kindness not only makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, it helps others to feel worthy. It also motivates them to want to pay it forward.
  3. Be attentive. Give your undivided attention to the people around you. Make eye contact. Show that you value and appreciate their time, attention and desire to connect with you.
  4. Say a prayer. Prayer nurtures and heals relationships. Studies even show that an active prayer life can lengthen your life, mitigate illness and increase overall well-being.
  5. Pick up after yourself. Keeping your home and surroundings neat and clean will help you and those around you feel safer, happier, less stressed and more tranquil. If you get it out, put it back. If you make a mess, clean it up.
  6. Be cheerful and positive. Know that you have control over what kind of day you will have. Your mood impacts everyone around you. When you get out of bed every morning, make a conscious effort to be positive in all things you do and say.
  7. Say “I love you” to someone dear. Don’t take anyone for granted. Nurture and cherish your relationships. Expressing your love in a meaningful way is the greatest gift you can give to the people in your life.
  8. Wash your hands. Frequent hand washing is one of the best ways to avoid getting sick and spreading illness. According to the Centers for Disease Control, clean hands actually save lives.
  9. Pay a compliment. This is a simple but powerful relationship building tool. Focus on others. Be kind and sincere. Encourage other people by offering genuine, heartfelt praise.
  10. Smile and laugh . . . a lot. Any positive vibes emanating from you will make the world brighter and friendlier. Smiling not only lifts your spirits, but those around you. Smiles are contagious!

You may feel like just a speck in the whole of humankind. But you have valuable reasons for being here. Whether you realize it or not, the unique effect of YOU can be seen, felt and heard by everyone around you. Which then radiates to the people around them, and so on and so on . . .

Isn’t it comforting to know how easy it is to do something meaningful and significant? The world is waiting on you. Be yourself and share with others. The tiny things you do every day will make all the difference.

How do you try to make the world a better place?

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For more about An Island Perspective & finding tropical tranquility, visit palmcanyonwellness.com. And, you can join the island tribe at facebook.com/IslandPerspective.

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How To Quiet Your Mind And Quit Thinking So Much

February 17, 2010
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Lying wide awake one night, tossing and turning like a corkscrew, I just couldn’t seem to get my mind to shut down. Frustrated with my inability to relax and get back to sleep, I had a sudden epiphany:
Thinking is highly over-rated.
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What We Can Learn From Lizards About Managing Stress

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I hope you don’t think this is weird, but there are lizards scattered all around my house. No, not live ones, but cute little critters who serve a very real purpose – to remind me of the balmy tropics.
Nestled amongst my hodgepodge of island decor you’ll spot these:

A little stuffed multi-colored lizard basking on a [...]

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5 Things You Don’t Have To Stress About Anymore

February 3, 2010
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Whenever I’m in the mood to look hard enough, I can usually find some reason to get all frazzled and worried. Even though I try to keep an air of tropical tranquility about me, there are times when those nasty, negative feelings of doom and gloom seep into my being.
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If Palm Trees Aren’t Perfect, Why Do We Try To Be?

January 27, 2010
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Sometimes I look in the mirror and think, “Who is that old lady?!?” Seriously, though, how I feel on the inside doesn’t always resonate with how I “think” I look on the outside.
I admit to being somewhat of a perfectionist. At times, I obsess over having things “just right.” I’m not sure where this habit [...]

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5 Reasons Why We Have To Suffer . . . And What We Can Do About It

January 20, 2010
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Sometimes I feel sorry for myself. Thoughts like, “It’s not fair!” or “Why did this have to happen to me?” cross my mind.
Do you ever catch yourself lamenting that same age-old question, “Why me?” I would be surprised if you said no. After all, if you’re reading this, you’re probably human. And every person alive [...]

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Life Lessons I Learned While Sitting In a Musty Old Gym

January 13, 2010
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I spent last Saturday hanging out at a middle school volleyball tournament. I have to admit I wasn’t super excited about camping out for the day in a cold, noisy gym.
Sitting on those hard bleachers amid the cheers and din of the crowd, I decided to relax and accept my fate. No amount of whining [...]

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10 Times When MORE Is Really Less

January 6, 2010
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Okay, I have a confession to make.
I’ve spent a good portion of my life trying to get MORE. An example of this is a little quirk I have whenever I find a “bargain.” When something is on sale, I’m usually not satisfied to get just one, I think I need several. This probably explains the [...]

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How To Know (and Get) What You Really Want This Year

December 30, 2009
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There’s something about the new year that inspires most of us to get excited about an opportunity to start fresh. To make concrete plans and optimistic intentions for improvement.
I’m a planner. I love to make “to do” lists. So setting goals for exhilarating my life are right down my alley.
The history of making New [...]

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